Daily Archives: 12/04/2009
New to the Crowd
Just imagine the scene, you enter a room full of people you don’t know, in a place you’ve never been to before.
How do you feel? Nervous? Anxious? Do you just want to hide in a corner or worse, leave?
This is the situation every time we hold an event or for that matter a church service, at our Church services we will have visitors who may not know anybody. These visitors have come into an unknown building to meet unknown people in a church where they may know nothing of the culture or the way we do things.
Think of the first time you walked into a church what did you notice, who spoke to you, what made you feel welcome?
For us to grow as a church we need to make our visitors welcome. We need to be focused on developing and maintaining a friendly and outgoing environment.Now what I mean is not a false smile and a handshake, but a genuine interest in the people who do come.
I am not naturally an outgoing person; I struggle in crowds of strangers sometimes, so what tips have I got that have helped me.
1. Smile and look at people, making eye contact says that I have noticed you.
2. Give a good firm confident handshake.
3. Ask questions about the visitor. If it is difficult to spontaneously think of what to ask, come up with a list of five open questions before the event or service that you could ask people.
4. Listen generously. Be interested in what the other person has to say, honour them by listening.
5. Be confident.
Why not give it a go, find a visitor or someone you don’t know and try it.
Try it this Sunday at church, or at work, at a business conference, at the sports club etc.
You might enjoy it, you might make new friends, win new contracts