Monthly Archives: April 2009

Dealing with life’s curve balls

Dealing with life’s curve balls Sometimes life throws us a curve ball, you plan and prepare long an hard you’re just about to get started then the rug gets pulled out from under you. Circumstances beyond your control take over and seem to ruin well thought out plans.

There can be many reasons for these changes in direction some good some not so good. They could include health issues, redundancy, job offers, a mysterious change in direction of the organisation you are part of. Sometimes there is no apparent reason at all. There have been many times in my life that have meant that plans have needed to change or even stop.
So what gets me through?

Here are some things that I do to help.
1. I have faith in God
2. Have no regrets, the past is the past
3. Keep short accounts for forgiveness (I chose to forgive, I ask for forgiveness)
4. Accept that change is inevitable
5. Understand that all organizations are run by fallible people
6. Friends
7. I know that my self-esteem is not reliant on what others think, do or say.
8. Recreation (fishing, music etc)
9. Exercise (swimming)
10. Prayer

Also there have been times when I’ve needed extra support to deal with bigger issues. I recommend that you need to learn to recognize early that you can’t deal with something on your own and get help be it professional counseling, medical attention, or even spiritual support as soon as possible.

Be honest with yourself.

Work out a plan that works for you, come up with a list of things that you can do to keep on top of the things life throws at you, and again, get outside help early if you need to don’t “go it alone”

New to the Crowd

Paul AllenNew to the Crowd

Just imagine the scene, you enter a room full of people you don’t know, in a place you’ve never been to before.

How do you feel? Nervous? Anxious? Do you just want to hide in a corner or worse, leave?
This is the situation every time we hold an event or for that matter a church service, at our Church services we will have visitors who may not know anybody.  These visitors have come into an unknown building to meet unknown people in a church where they may know nothing of the culture or the way we do things.

Think of the first time you walked into a church  what did you notice, who spoke to you, what made you feel welcome?

For us to grow as a church we need to make our visitors welcome. We need to be focused on developing and maintaining a friendly and outgoing environment.Now what I mean is not a false smile and a handshake, but a genuine interest in the people who do come.

I am not naturally an outgoing person; I struggle in crowds of strangers sometimes, so what tips have I got that have helped me.

1. Smile and look at people, making eye contact says that I have noticed you.
2. Give a good firm confident handshake.
3. Ask questions about the visitor. If it is difficult to spontaneously think of what to ask, come up with a list of five open questions before the event or service that you could ask people.
4. Listen generously. Be interested in what the other person has to say, honour them by listening.
5. Be confident.
6. Practice.

Why not give it a go, find a visitor or someone you don’t know and try it.
Try it this Sunday at church, or at work, at a business conference, at the sports club etc.
You might enjoy it, you might make new friends, win new contracts

Paul

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