Monthly Archives: December 2010

Playing Basic Guitar

Want to learn the guitar? (Is it a new year resolution?)

If you would like to learn a few basic guitar chords then look at the following pictures, If you would like to learn more please leave a comment.

This selection of basic chords should get you by playing many songs out there.

Hints for playing guitar.

Paul S Allen

Click the picture for basic guitar chords.

Waiting For The Answer

How do you cope with waiting?

Waiting patiently for the answer/cure/solution can be frustrating at least. In the case of Myalgic Encephalomyelitis/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME/CFS) the waiting is long, frustrating and painful.

Over the past few years much progress has been made in research into the condition with much debate over possible causes and treatments. But “research” is not an answer in itself, and isolated studies are but a step on the way to a bigger picture of the situation. The difficult aspect of this current research is that it has become very public and heated debate has ensued.

The good thing about the current research is that it has brought the subject into the mainstream media and into the agenda of larger research organisations. It has also brought about problems including unrealistic expectations of a cure/fix and  misplaced hope in incomplete research.

(For the interested  please study the research into XMRV from The Whittemore Peterson Institute.)

The research and the increased awareness is great but it does not replace the desperate need to manage the person with the illness here and now. Realistically any answer may be years away so what can help now?

If you have the chronic illness

White Island, Dunedin

  • Hold on to hope
  • Hope in itself does not change the status quo – but it does change your attitude
  • Learn to pace yourself – remember you are sick
  • Balance in all things
  • Get involved or contact support groups – where you can and if you are able
  • Learn to rest body and mind
  • Do not have a single focus on or about the illness or problem
  • Do what you can not what you can’t
  • DO NOT blame yourself
  • Distract yourself from time to time
  • Keep in contact with those who provide care for you (professionals/family/partner)
  • Have a good moan from time to time – get it out, just don’t dwell there.
  • DO NOT feel guilty for what you cannot do
  • Keep in contact with you medical support
  • Don’t be proud – ask for help if you need it

In the business community there is an increasing understanding of the importance of “work – life” balance, why should managing a chronic illness be any different? Although there are physical limitations on what you can do, there are things that you can do. You need to work out what they are, small things and simple things should not be overlooked.

The word “patience” can be a swear word especially when you want and need solutions now, but it is what is needed.

Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
Viktor E. Frankl

If you are not coping then you need to get help! If you are battling with your state of mind  seek help (professional help if required). If your circumstances have changed due to chronic illness then you need support. Do not think that you can do it alone.This applies to all affected people, including the person who is unwell and their partner/family.

Paul S Allen

St Kilda Beach

So What is Christmas?

First of all let me say that as good as the following are, these things are not what Christmas is about.

1. Presents
2. Family
3. Fun
4. Santa Claus
5. Children
6. Friends
7. Holidays
8. Food and Drink
9. Snow, sleighs, bells, tinsel or even trees
10. World peace…..

All these are great, and fun, and good for the world but there is one thing missing, the reason for the day in the first place.

The day recognizes the birth of Jesus, son of Mary and step son of Joseph. I do believe that Jesus is the Son of God. Although December 25 is not the actual day of the birth of Jesus, it is as good a day as any to celebrate that about  2010 years ago, Jesus was born on earth and the world will never be the same again.

His birth is just a small part of the story, he went on to comfort the hurting and the broken, heal the sick and even raise the dead. He forgave “sinners” the people who broke the rules of the day. Outcasts of society,  prostitutes and thieves where his friends. Ultimately He even took our faults and failures upon Himself and became a sacrifice once and for all that we no longer need to face an eternity with our problems.

His resurrection gave us hope that one day we too will be whole, clean and well, just as we all were supposed to be.

Even today Jesus is with you, whether you “feel it” or not, whether you accept Him or not is up to you, I will not, and cannot,  force you to believe because that decision is yours  alone to make. All I can ask is that you look into this season, Christmas, and take time to find out what it is about,  ask yourself “what is my response to it”?.

Read the parts of the bible called the gospels especially Luke and John, to find out more. Choose a version that is easily understood by you. Be open, take some time this Christmas to find out more.

Paul S Allen

(this is an updated re-post of a previous article of mine on 24 Dec 2009

Christmas Tree 2010 #1

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