Monthly Archives: May 2012
Regent Theatre 24 Hour Book Sale 2012, a set on Flickr.
Here are photos from the Regent Theatre 24 Hour Book Sale in Dunedin 25 May 2012.
Paul S Allen
Suffering is part of life and common to all of us, do not fool yourself or let others trick you into believing otherwise.
What you do with suffering and your attitude to it will determine your success in life.
In all things hold on to hope, never let go. You can get through!
If you are not coping then get help, professional help if need be, get help to overcome. You do not need to go through it alone and there any many organisations/mental health providers worldwide to help you overcome and get through so check your local directory or contact your doctor or even your local citizens advice bureau.
How clear is your message?
Just because the words are clear, or the images on signs are crisp, does not mean the message is easily understood.
I found this sign on the wall outside Cadbury’s factory in Dunedin (NZ), there were no other signs around it. I can only assume that it is some form of assembly point, but for who?
The lesson is, never assume that people will understand.
Living With M.E.
I am currently the vice president of the Association of New Zealand Myalgic Encephalopathy Society (ANZMES) the national organisation that has been serving New Zealanders with Myalgic Encephalopathy/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome since 1980.
Myalgic Encephalopathy/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME/CFS) is a serious and complex illness characterised by incapacitating fatigue (experienced as profound exhaustion and extremely poor stamina) it affects multiple systems of the body, in particular, the nervous and immune systems and causes neurological problems and other symptoms.
This is the story of how this chronic illness has affected both my wife who has the illness and us as a couple.
This is a condition that my wife has for many years now. We live with it every day having to manage time, energy and at times the sheer frustration that comes from not being able to enjoy the things that others take for granted.
The following is an interview with her so that people will get an understanding of what she (and us together) deal with daily.
When did you get sick?
What was life-like before you got sick?
I was a very busy person, a very active member of a church, studying full-time while working at a church; I was involved in a band playing keyboards, a singer, involved in theatre. At work on the tenth floor I used to take the stairs two or three times a day. I used to enjoy long walks, aerobics, and music, getting involved in community projects including working with the disabled.
What can you do now?
Not much, virtually all of that has gone, I do a bit of craft work occasionally, read, and light housework, but even this has to be managed very carefully. Even taking a shower can be one of the most tiring activities. I do bits and pieces but require to rest for long periods often
Describe how you feel physically?
I’m sensitive to light, smell and noise. In regard to light the “eco” bulbs and fluorescent lighting is the worst due to the flicker.
There is a constant body ache always there at some level.
Sleep is broken and irregular.
Constant fatigue, I would describe it like a heavy dragging feeling like walking through a pool of water with lead weights on your hands and feet.
I can’t walk too far and can tire very quickly.
Find it hard to concentrate and when I do I can’t keep it up for long.
Developed food allergies/intolerances.
Doing too much (more than usual) makes things worse and requires a long recovery time to get back to “normal”.
Even the weather can affect me whether there is not enough sun, too hot/cold, high pressure systems can produce “heavy air days”.
What do you want others to know about ME/CFS?
It is currently incurable, although there is great research being done around the world; research is also being currently undertaken in Dunedin, NZ.
It is invisible; people with ME/CFS may look well but they hide what is going on inside.
It is not laziness.
It is not just in the mind.
It is not an excuse.
It is real not imagined.
It is a physical illness.
ME/CFS can often affect very productive and active people, stopping them in their tracks.
How can others help or assist people with ME/CFS?
We don’t want pity – just understanding.
Don’t forget about us.
Plan contacts in advance.
Don’t be offended if we need to change/cancel plans especially at the last minute.
Remember that we are sick not “uncommitted”.
Take us as you find us, some days are better than others.
When you come to visit know that short visits are better.
It is not just about the person with ME/CFS but it also has a major effect on their families.
Wider effects of ME/CFS
All aspects of life are changed when you or someone in your family gets ME/CFS, including finance, food, social activities, friendships can change, community involvements stop, even the thought of or ability to have children becomes difficult.
There can be a feeling of isolation as the world revolves around you, while you feel that nothing ever changes. Those who get sick may feel guilty because they can’t “contribute”; those who are close who look on see a person who is but a shadow of what they were.
We have our moments of frustration. We occasionally allow ourselves to have a good moan, but this achieves nothing apart from getting it off our chests. We have had to put systems in place to manage the energy levels. Just as you can spend money only once we can use energy only once so we have to budget how it is spent. If we do something today, even as simple as having a friend over for coffee, then we can do nothing for the next few days.
It has not been an easy few years, and unfortunately there is no sign of improvement and of recent times the illness has become worse again, but we hold on to hope that one day someone will come across a treatment or a cure. Until then we will hold onto hope.
If you know of people with this chronic illness, or if you have the illness yourself contact a local support group. A list of New Zealand support groups can be found on the ANZMES website www.anzmes.org.nz.
Please watch the video “Sweet Lullabies”. I wrote this song for my wife and for those who suffer from chronic illnesses like ME/CFS and for this who have other hidden illnesses. If you would like a copy of the song in mp3 you can purchase it from Amplifier a music site dedicated to New Zealand music.
(updated from a post on this site in May 2010)