Daily Archives: 17/05/2014
Posted by Paul S Allen
Sticks and stones may break your bones but words can also harm you.
Be careful with words, the scars they cause may not be visible but they are real, words can cause real damage.
People may appear strong and able to cope, but what is going on beneath the surface may not be apparent, and you do not know what demons people are struggling with.
Being told to “get over it” or “harden up” are not helpful statements especially if you have been brave enough to reveal a problem. Yes, we need a reminder from time to time it doesn’t matter what others think about you (or me); but, if you are struggling, you need support and encouragement, at times even professional assistance.
We all can struggle with self-esteem or self-worth issues at some point in life, some people are more obvious with letting it be known, and others just hide it away. The trigger points are different for everyone and you may not understand what your own triggers are.
Words can have permanent consequences for people. You never know how close to the edge someone is, or what they are going through. so be very careful.
Let your words build up and not destroy.
Paul S Allen
I am not a stranger to being bullied, as a child, teenager and as an adult. It has been in the form of words and insults, intimidation, threats and physical attacks. Coming to a new country as a child with a different accent, just not being the same as others, or being quiet and shy or for no apparent reason at all. What ever the reason given, there is no valid reason to bully anyone, ever.
New Zealand support services
– Youthline: 0800 376 633
– Depression helpline: 0800 111 757 – 24 hour service
– Rainbow Youth: (09) 376 4155
For an emergency if you or someone else is at risk, call 111
The image above is one of a few photos that are a great visual representation on the power that words can have.
Be aware some of the images, although staged, may cause a reaction in you and may not be suitable for sensitive people or children.
Stand up together – Stop Bullying – Pink Shirt Day this Friday – 23 May 2014 http://www.pinkshirtday.org.nz