Positive thinking or a positive attitude may not bring about a cure, recovery or solution, but neither will negative thinking or a negative attitude. It will however improve your current state of being.
1: Always hope, never lose hope, while there is breath in you there is hope.
2: Choose your own attitude.
“The last of human freedoms – the ability to choose one’s attitude in a given set of circumstances.” Viktor E. Frankl
3: Accept the reality of your situation, act appropriately and always hold on to faith, even in difficult circumstances. Remember the Stockdale Paradox
“This is a very important lesson. You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose—with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.” Vice Admiral James Bond Stockdale
Positive thinking based in reality is positive action.
Please also read “Which is best? Positive Thinking or Positive Action?” by Claire Boyles on her site Life Matters
If someone is angry, bitter or negative don’t just dismiss them as they may be right and justified. The best way to deal with them is to engage with them, through the dialogue you will discover the cause so that it can be dealt with appropriately.
Ignoring them will lead to the dissatisfaction and anger quickly spreading to others.
The path of ignoring the “naysayers” will lead to the stagnation of the organisation, but if you dialogue with them, and listen to them without agenda, you may win a solid ally. The negativity, when handled correctly, may lead to improved product or process or at least to improved communication. Start to worry when your organisation has only people who say “yes” to everything that is happening, it means there are no boundaries; very dangerous territory.
Be very careful with criticism, it may be right. Consider it a blessing, it means someone is listening and wants to engage.
Playing favourites may be OK in horse racing but in leadership it can lead to the destruction of relationships and distrust among those you are leading. Appointing leaders on a “flavour of the month” basis will not advance the organisation, but will see people burn-out because they are being given roles they are not equipped, prepared or are ready to carry.
When you need to appoint someone to a position in your organization what do you do?
The primary thing to do is to clearly define what the role is and what is expected of the role, then look for the person with the right skill-set to best fulfill that role. This may be from your inner circle of people but make sure that the process is transparent, if you need to look wider do so.
Be careful when appointing friends to positions of responsibility, you need to ask the question am I prepared to lose a friend. Establish very clear boundaries, job descriptions, expectations. Get these in writing, and stick to them. Let business be business and friendship be friendship. The closer the relationship is the more important it becomes to define boundaries.
There is a saying that the cream always rises to the top, but in some processes it is the rubbish that rises, In refining gold it is the slag and low grade metal that floats the gold stays underneath. Have a clear understanding that it needs to be the right person for the job not just the nearest person.
Do not overlook a person for a role because they are quiet or reserved, and don’t rush to appoint a person because they say the “right” things, act the “right” way or because they always agree with you, (it may just be an act, or mask, or even a search for your approval)
Do not rush into a hasty decision you may regret it and so might they. Always appoint inline with the clearly stated vision and values of the organisation. Be prepared to let the new appointed person be better than you so that they can achieve the vision. Be a significant and potential-enabling leader, do not let your own ego get in the way of the success and significance of others, even those you do not like.
Holidays are a state of mind.
What is it about being on holiday that we find restorative and refreshing?
The lack of work, the extra sleep, and the books we read (or don’t read)?
Is it the fishing, walking, swimming, the new places we see?
The answer is yes to all, but perhaps the greatest part of being on holiday is that we take off the masks we wear, or allow the expectations we have of ourselves to be relaxed. Many of these things can be incorporated into our daily lives.
Holidays are not about gathering your thoughts, but rather clearing them. This can certainly be done daily.
No matter how busy we get through the year all of us can & should experience a “holiday” moment every day. Although I think it’s a learning curve for all of us we should be determined to take even a few moments each day to enjoy just “being”.
Daily holiday hints
- Walk around the building at lunchtime in the fresh air
- Read a book for pleasure
- Stare out the window for five minutes.
- Go off-line for a while
- Have an early night
- Spend quality time with your family and friends
- Allow your eyes to “glaze-over” and daydream
- Add your own holiday hints.
Reduce stress in your life by taking time out everyday just to be you. Being an authentic “you” will help you in your work, family, social life and community life. Just “being” should always come before “doing”
Have a holiday every day
Paul S Allen